Saturday, May 24, 2008

Saying Goodbye


Just the other day, a family lost a child. This is a horror that no parent should ever have to go through. Unfortunately we all know it happens & too frequently for everyone concerned.
I have thought long & hard about whether or not I wanted to write about this & came to the decision that I needed to. Maria Chapman lost her life the other day in a horrible accident. I'm sure that you've read of the accident. It's been all over the adoption & blog communities. Her family will need to hold strong to their faith (& I'm sure they most certainly will) as they deal with what has happened & help their son get through this. I don't know how, but I do know that they will. You see, faith is what this is about. Faith that G-d above had His reasons although unknown to us. Faith that love will help the family heal.
Maria had just turned 5. Erin is 5. I can't imagine losing her & what life would be like without her in it. Erin has her whole life ahead of her. Today she started questioning everyone's position in our family. How we are all related to each other. These are the things that a 5 year old is supposed to be thinking about & learning. I read that Maria loved to "wash dishes buck naked." Apparently, this is a 5 year old thing. Erin would also rather go "nakey" as we call it.
Saying goodbye is hard. I wish the Chapman family well. May their faith in G-d help them on their path to healing.

4 comments:

Vivian M said...

Tammie, no parent should have to bury their child. Corey lost an aunt at the age of almost three in a tragic accident. No one talks about it and I had to go outside the family to find out what happened. I thought that is was incredibly sad that Corey did not know why his little aunt died, and that she lay there forgotten in the cementery. No matter how brief, her life was important and she should be remembered.
The Chapman family have inspired many with their adoptions, charity work, music and books. My heart goes out to them and their son who was behind the wheel. They have much healing to do.

Gretchen said...

I've been a big Steven Curtis Chapman fan for yeas, long before we ever considered adoption. I can't look at their blog and not cry. When I see pictures of Maria, I see so many similarities to Elise and all of her 5 year old friends. I just can not imagine the grief of losing a child. She was put on this earth for a reason and hopefully her short life will touch many.

Certainly makes you hold your kiddos a little tighter.

Anonymous said...

This is so very sad; the family has been on my mind a lot. As you know, we have been through a similar experience. Faith and time will heal....

Lisa said...

Oh this was so sad. I can't even begin to imagine the pain that this family must be going through. My heart goes out to them.