Wednesday, July 29, 2009

The Stars Have to be in Perfect Alignment

"Why was Chianna a big girl when she came home?"
Wow! And yet another big question from Erin. Last night was really chock full o' zingers.
Erin has been around adopted children her entire life & has never questioned the process until Chianna. This past Mother's Day, Chianna landed in FL with her mommy & daddy. Erin was giddy with excitement as she waited for her new friend to come home. Chianna came home at an older age than most of the children that Erin knows.
Last night's discussion about someone taking her away from us lead to why Chianna was older when she came home. Gee. Just how do you explain why some children wait around in an orphanage for years while others get to come home as infants? How do you explain the bureaucracy? How do you explain the BS?
When David & Erin take their telescopes out to observe the moon, the stars & the other planets, the stars have to be "just so" in order to be right. If the stars aren't in just the right position, it can't be the Big Dipper or the Little Dipper or any of the other constellations.
Some children aren't ready just like their mommies & daddies aren't ready. The stars have to be in perfect alignment for the whole package to be right. Chianna's stars weren't in perfect alignment until a few months ago. That is why she came home at an older age.
Erin will learn the truth when she's older. For now, this explanation worked.

5 comments:

Space said...

Oh, Tam, and what a beautiful explanation it is! .... Lisa

Vivian M said...

I loved that explanation! You have one smart cookie on your hands.

Teena in Toronto said...

Happy blogoversary!

Minouche said...

what a beautiful way to explain such complicated issue! :o) Love it! :o)

Shari McConahay said...

Oh boy! I just stopped by to check on your blog and what a doosey I find! So sorry that Erin is going through this and that you two are as well. It certainly is not easy questions to answer or an easy task at all. I know that you & David will find the right answers and the right path with your love and security. You are right though, all the stars finally lined up right and it just took us a little longer to find the love of our lives, a little longer to find out daughter waiting out there for us. It was worth the wait, 100%. We love you very much and we love Erin too - you know how special you guys are to us!